[00:00:02] Speaker A: Hi, I'm Aisha and I'm a former host of moca, Single Mothers by Choice or smcs.
Like you, as an smc, I decided to become a mother knowing I'd be the sole care provider and parent for my children.
At least at the outset, the MOCA stood for black. So I'm using the word black and I'll be discussing being a single mother by choice from a black woman's lens.
You'll connect with all the interesting and fun things about this non traditional path, like discussing which sperm to use and some hard truths about fertility and the realities of dating as a single mother who doesn't have a co parent to rely on occasionally and what it's actually like to parent as an smc.
This is the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast.
[00:00:54] Speaker B: It's funny now that Camille is at an age that Camille is at the age that Noelle was when this episode was recorded and they had the same developmental needs for that age. So at six years old, they are pushing up against boundaries. Both Noel and Camille are pushing up against those boundaries. At 6, they're still cuddly. So I still get to snuggle Camille all the time. Noelle is not as cuddly and not cuddly all the time, but I do cherish the moment she snuggles in my bed or she lets me hug her and kiss her cheeks. So fast forward, I suspect Noel being the oldest, she's moving into kind of like those tween ages and she's a little bit shy, she's a little bit more reserved.
Um, I had to speak more life into her, more strength into her and more confidence into her. So a lot more validating what she already knows about herself and just loving on her. And so I letting her know that while I am giving her independence, I'm still here. I still love her unconditionally. We bump heads and so I know that there are times where she's just like, mommy, you're so overbearing. And. And there are times where I'm just like, oh child, what are you doing?
So yeah, I still give more hugs than I yell because having to be a mom, I have to balance being that softness that they need to feel secure and being. If you're curious about how these early conversations have evolved, you can find a full mashup episodes or on start to finish motherhood.
[00:02:50] Speaker A: Well, pod, thank you so much for taking the time to listen. If you like what you've heard, please share this podcast with your girlfriends and I'd love to hear your thoughts. About the topics covered in this episode, so email
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[00:03:14] Speaker B: Bye now.
