Mash-up Clip: Reflections on the Dating Pool from a Black Single Mother by Choice

[00:00:02] Speaker A: Hi, I'm Aisha and I'm a former host of moca Single Mothers by Choice or smcs. Like you, as an smc, I decided to become a mother knowing I'd be the sole care provider and parent for my children. At least at the outset the MOCA stood for Black. So I'm using the word black and I'll be discussing being a single mother by choice from a black woman's lens. You'll connect with all the interesting and fun things about this non traditional path, like discussing which sperm to use and some hard truths about fertility and the realities of dating as a single mother who doesn't have a co parent to rely on occasionally and what it's actually like to parent as an smc. This is the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast. [00:00:53] Speaker B: Things are really weird with society right now and male female dynamics are quite toxic from what I'm seeing across social media, Internet dating is out completely because there is nothing but bottom dwellers still left on the dating sites. So right now I'm preferring to meet people in the dating pool while I'm outside doing the things that I love. And hopefully by doing the things that I love, there are other people there that are doing what they love and so then we have common interests that way and then you can just talk naturally. I need to talk to you and assess your mental health, assess where you stand in terms of gender relationships and yeah, and I need to be able to do that without expectations in a more neutral space. I'm still very selective about who gets to come into my home, who I even share presence with. So I am not in the dating pool but I can appreciate a good looking specimen of a person if they should pass my way. So just a caveat is that I have two girls and realistically their safety, their safety and their comfort and the place that is their home and is top of mind for me and is my top priority. So we have boundaries. I want them to be comfortable and I always want home. If you're curious about how these early conversations have evolved, you can find the full mashup episodes on Start to Finish. Motherhood. [00:02:41] Speaker A: Full Pod thank you so much for taking the time to listen. If you like what you've heard, please share this podcast with your girlfriends and I'd love to hear your thoughts about the topics covered in this episode. Email me at mochasmc@gmail com. If you found value in the topics covered, consider making a donation using the link in the show notes below. Till next time pod. Bye now.